He’s Saved, Single, & Super Fine, But Is He the One?

Let me first give you a scenario. “Mr. Saved, Single, & Super Fine” catches your eye at church. He’s the youth pastor who is always fired up for the Lord.Then you notice that he’s making eye contact with you and giving you a smile that makes you weak at the knees. At the end of the service, he approaches you and you exchange telephone numbers. Now let’s fast forward three months later and you realize this man is everything that you want in a husband. “Mr. Saved, Single, & Super Fine” is in ministry and loves God with all of his heart. He’s tall, dark and handsome.  At this moment, you are wondering if he can possibly be the one for you. Ladies, I hate to break it to you but just because he’s everything you want in a mate does not mean he’s the one. Ok, so you are wondering, why would God bring this man in your life? It can be a plethora of reasons.   Many of us women complain that there are no saved and single men out there. Well, maybe God is trying to show you through this young man that there are saved men who really love Christ and living according to His word. Sometimes, God places that person there to show you that you are not really ready for a Godly husband.  Maybe we have some things that we need to clean up first before we meet our husband. 

The question is “Is He the One?”. My answer to that is definitely pray and seek God concerning if this man is supposed to be your husband. Please do not be led by your flesh or your desire to get married that you will just grab the first Christian guy that you meet. I know Christian couples who are miserable in their marriages and one of the reasons could be that they were not meant to be together. 

Proverbs 3: 6 says, “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”  

  
The Holy Spirit will reveal to you if you are supposed to marry this young man or not.  Doesn’t He reveal other things to you? Doesn’t the Spirit direct you concerning other decisions that you are contemplating? Ok, so He will do the same thing concerning a husband.  

In conclusion, while you are with this young man, please “guard your heart” (Prov. 4: 23). If God is showing you that this young man is not the one for you and both of you may have fallen in love with each other, maybe you should end the relationship.  The more you spend time with this young man the more you are going to fall in love with each other, so why put your heart through so much pain.  It may be very hard to walk away, but ask God to help you. 

Your Sister in Christ,